A ‘Thank You’ To The Boy Who Broke My Heart.

It seems that we all have that one person. The one who promised us the world, but only ended up tearing ours down. Someone who broke us more than anymore has before.

To say you broke my heart would be an understatement. You lite a fire within me, and didn’t even bother to watch me burn to the ground. You created a life for us; full of empty promises and lies. I never knew what it meant to truly have my heart broken until you.

I’ve spent the last year wishing that I had never met you. I should have kept walking, instead of stopping to talk with you at the end of the staircase. It took me a long time to move on and be able to appreciate you for everything you have taught me.

So thank you. Thank you breaking me down, so that I could rebuild myself into the person I am today. Thank you for all the pain you caused, but it has only made me stronger. Thank you for never loving me; because now I have found love in places I never knew possible.

Thank you for suffocating me, so I can appreciate how it feels to breathe.
From the moment we met, you took my breath away. You had a way with your words and you stole my heart the first time I laid eyes on you.

At first I thought it was cute how you made it hard to breathe. But you continued to take too much from me, and I started to feel like I was suffocating. The longer I had you in my life, the more I struggled for air.

Once you were gone, I finally was able to catch my breath. I was reminded of how good it feels to be free again.

Thanks to you, I will never allow myself to be controlled as much by another human being. You showed me exactly how I do not want to be treated.

Thank you for taking too much from me, so I could learn how much I have to give.
The more you took from me, the harder I fought for you. Slowly, I found myself drowning trying to keep you afloat. You taught me that I couldn’t save anyone else in this world. Only we can save ourselves.

I never realized how much I was able to give to another, until all you did was take from me. Now I know my limits, and will not stand to have my boundaries crossed again.

You robbed me of too much and because of that, I will certainly not allow another to do the same.

Thank you for lying to me, so I could learn how to truly trust people.
Being an honest person, I expected others to be the same. You proved differently. Because of you, I now understand the value of being truthful, and the detrimental effects of dishonestly.

Actions speak louder than words. You were all talk and no game.

You taught me how to believe actions and not words. You made honesty seem cheap, and now I realize its value.

Thank you for letting me go, so he could find me.
You lead me on a journey I never thought I would take. I changed my life plans for you, even though you didn’t seem to notice.

Because of you I ended up on in a place I never thought imaginable. And that was where I met him.

You lead me straight to the one who was able to love me back. If it weren’t for you, I never would have met him.

But mostly, thank you for not loving me back, so I could finally learn how to love myself.
I could feel myself starting to change for you, to become a person you wanted back. Once you left me, I realized I must love myself before another can love me. You pushed me to find the self-love I have always been looking for.

You weren’t able to love me as much as I deserved, which forced me to find that love in another place.

You broke me down more than another else has before. Rock bottom was a place I have never felt and have no desire to revisit. I’ve become strong and independent due to you and your actions.

I will never rely on another for happiness. I realize now that people come and go.
At the end of the day, the only thing that is guaranteed is myself.

I now live a life full of love and happiness, and that is all thanks to you.

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14 Reasons Why Being Single AF Is The Best Way To Be.

Being single can be quite a chaotic and confusing ride. There are just as many ups as there are downs. This roller coaster of emotions can sometimes leave us in confusion about our one word statues. A complexity exist with our constantly changing lifestyle, which has created many stages of being single.

First off, we have the rebound single girl. The girl who just got dumped and is single, and oh so ready to mingle. Next, we have the confused single girl. She’s the one basking in her singleness one moment, then crying herself to sleep the next. Then, there is the single and hating life period we all go through at one point. We are so over single life and all we want is someone to cuddle us throughout the night. Lastly, which is my personal favorite, is the single as f*ck stage. This girl has been single for so long that she doesn’t even know what it’s like to talk to a guy, let alone touch one. She’s not spending her nights swiping on stupid dating apps. This single girl loves adventuring life on her and doesn’t need prince charming to save her.

She is loving the single life, and honestly, why wouldn’t she be? She can do whatever she wants for herself, without worrying about anyone else. And if that alone doesn’t convince you, here’s 14 other reasons why single as f*ck is the best way to be.

1. It’s just her and herself. No one else’s emotions and needs to deal with. She can do whatever her little heart desires. Does this make her selfish? Maybe a little, but she just like her statues, she doesn’t give a f*ck.

2. She has more time and energy to invest on other relationships. Her family and friends come first. In no way does she feel lonely or unloved; she’s constantly surround by people who truly love her.

3. Traveling is on her agenda. She is free. Nothing and no one is holding her down and is able to fly away at any point.

4. No one even bothers to ask her about her relationship statues anymoe. They already know the answer.

5. Independent and strong are the two words to describe her best. She’s navigated it this far on her own and doesn’t need anyone to help her stand in this world.

6. She is able to focus on taking care of herself. She’s not eating healthy and going to the gym to impress someone else. Her basic needs come first, and she wouldn’t have it any other way.

7. Netflix and chilling by herself is a thing.

8. Due to her complete lack of a love life, she is no longer sitting around waiting for guys to message her back. She has better things to worry about.

9. Being single can help one’s bank account quite a lot. She is able to spend money on herself and doesn’t have to worry about spending money on silly things, such as anniversary gifts.

10. Cuddling is always fun, but a whole bottle of wine can also do the trick.

11. She’s not wasting time on tinder, bumble, and blind dates. She spends her time doing what she enjoys the most, even if that does include binge-watching Netflix.

12. No more tears spend over guys who are mean. It’s been so long, she can’t even remember what it was like having her heart broken.

13. More time to focus on herself and her future. She doesn’t have to take anyone else into consideration, so she can do what is best for her.

14. She is happy. Throughout the years, she has learned to not rely on others for her happiness. She is completely content being on her own. She is in love with her life and more importantly, herself.

So the next time you start to feel sorry for the girl who is as single as it gets, remember that she is probably more content with her own life than you are. Truthfully, she’s probably the one who feels sorry for you.
In the words of the great Asher Roth, “Single doesn’t mean I’m lookin for somebody.”

The Reason Why I Decided To Start A Blog.

Truthfully, I’ve never been one for blogging. Since I’m being honest here, it’s because I don’t really care enough to sit around and read them. I’m not trying to be rude, but I have more important things to worry about than what you had for lunch or that cute little coffee shop you went to today.

Also, i’ve never been the type to be extremely open with people who aren’t close to me. It’s my personal life and I usually prefer to keep it that way.

So why the hell am I doing this then?
Well, that’s a great question.

After returning home from traveling, I found myself a bit lost. Oh don’t you worry, I’ll be writing about the struggles of returning home from traveling soon enough. There were so many thoughts and emotions running through my head. Writing was the only way to get them out. I wrote without any intention of showing my work to anyone.

Until one day, my best friend asked if she could read one of my articles. To my surprise she actually liked what I had sent her. Then it kind of became a thing. I would share my articles with her and a few other friends.

It wasn’t until I sent one of my favorite pieces to a friend, that starting a blog even crossed my mind. After reading my writing, she replied with “I actually just cried.” Then she went on saying, “You put into words all the things I think.”

It was then that I realized how powerful my words could really be. I never imagined I could bring someone to tears through my writing, but somehow I did.

After that, things just all feel into place. As hard as it is to be open and share personal things with the entire world, it will all worth it if I manage to help even one person. Sometimes being able to relate with someone else can make the biggest difference.

So no. I’m not doing for attention. I’m doing this so I can be a voice and help people who are struggling. Chances are we don’t know each other and probably never will. But just understanding that someone out there cares, is all I’m trying to go for. I’ve been there myself, and because of that, I truly do care. You should never feel alone in this world. So many people are here for you.

I hope that somehow my words can help you, and if not, I hope that someone else out there can. Remember you are loved, you are enough, and you are worth it.
My goodness darling, I hope you never forget that.

Why You Will Regret Ever Letting Her Go.

This one’s for you fellows out there. The guys who had the perfect girl, and for some stupid reason decided to let her go.

Let me guess, “The timing isn’t right”, “You’re not in a good position in life to commit to someone else”, or “You’re trying to focus on your career right now”.

Oh you silly silly boy.

Here’s the thing. Relationships rarely happen at the right moment in our lives. There are theories out there that believe you’ll find the right person at a time when you’re not looking for love. Mrs. Right is not going to show up at your doorstep when you’re sitting around waiting for her. Good things never come to us at an ideal moment. They come to us when we are least expecting them, adding to the madness of it all. She is most likely going to burst into your life at a point when it is full-blown chaos. I honestly couldn’t give you an explanation for why this is; it’s just how this world works.

So yes, the timing probably isn’t ideal and it’s likely that you truly are not ready for a relationship. Oh, and congrats on that job promotion.

Letting go of “the one” just because of imperfect circumstances is just plain foolish. Stop with the excuses and fight for your woman.

Face it; a girl who is worth it all will not sit around waiting forever. Girls worth having are hard to catch, let alone keep.

If not, she is going to move on and find someone else, a guy who will actually fight for her. He will be able to give her everything that you should have. I’m confident in saying that in that moment when you see her with someone else, you’ll realize the magnitude of your mistake. You’ll kick yourself and wish you had fought for her.

Speaking from the girl’s perspective, all we want is for you to want us back. Prove that we are worth fighting for. Fight for us, instead of with us. Sadly, so many girls in this world already feel unloved and unwanted. Giving up on her will only make her feel more undesirable. Quit adding fuel to this fire.

Please, stop with the excuses and bullshit. In the end, you are only hurting yourself. So get up, stand for something worth battling for. Don’t let her go, because the only person left with remorse will be you. Not only should you do this for her, do it for yourself.

Because, who wants to live a life full or heartbreak and regret?